“We know what we are, but know not what we may become” – William Shakespeare
What moves you?
What moves you? To me it’s Connor McGregor straining his potential in every training session and then some more. When everyone tires and wants to give up during training with him, he asks everyone, “How badly do you want it?”, and then providing the example, trains even harder.
Rumi’s’ poetry reaches the depth of my soul and reveals my own scars to me. Rag ‘n Bone Mans’ song “Skin” stirs within the depths of my heart and beckons me to a deep sense of longing. Above all what moves me is the transformation from disbelief to belief. From hate to love and from lack of self-confidence to being on fire. That look in someone’s’ eyes when they truly and unconditionally love you shakes the very ground around me.
That is my purpose, my why to facilitate transformations and to coach and teach whether it is by voice or ink. What is yours? And how badly do you want it? Are you prepared to do what others will not to be a success as an entrepreneur? Are you willing to fail several times and tirelessly apply the learnings from it?
Find your why. If you cannot find a coach to help you find your why, but find your why. Not finding your why means a life of doing things that you have no real passion for, doing things that is not authentically you. That saddens me and hopefully you too, because there is nothing that ensures your long term failure more as an entrepreneur than doing things that you have no passion for, purely to survive.
Are you happy?
Most of all: Are you happy, truly happy?
If not that is your queue for a transformation. Money without happiness is trivial, business success without a full heart is empty. Can you have both business success and happiness? Yes, a yes that echoes throughout eternity, which is if you have made money as a by-product of living your “why”.
William Badenhorst, (MD of Global Strengths) a coach to the coaches says, “Let your test be your testimony, and let your mess be your message.” I want to add to that and say, AND FIND YOUR WHY. Socrates wisely exclaimed: “Know thyself”. How can you know yourself if you haven’t found what truly moves you, what you are truly passionate about?
When you have found you’re why you are willing to work harder than anyone else. And when you have worked really, really hard at something it is very much harder to give up on it as opposed to something you have made half-hearted attempts at.
Both attaining entrepreneurial success and happiness is indeed reaching dizzying heights and therefore very challenging. Indeed therefore everything worth attaining is challenging. Most people find at least some comfort in the status quo even when the status quo does not paint a very appealing picture. It is challenging to leave the known of the status quo for the unknown of your true purpose.
Are you brave enough to transform? Have you suffered enough? Or do you want to linger a little bit longer in the ease of your comfort zone where, unfortunately, no growth is possible?
True Leaders and Entrepreneurs become comfortable with the discomfort of growth. Is this a tough ask? Yes, the ones telling you it is easy are in general, delusional. I will always advocate being mentored or coached purely because it is extremely hard to be totally objective about yourself, by yourself.
Self-confidence
Self-love (tempered by humility) and Self-confidence (not arrogance) is a requirement to live an exemplary life of purpose as a leader which others would love to aspire to. As Ralph Waldo Emmerson said:
“If I have lost confidence in myself, I have the universe against me.”
Find and have faith in your purpose and back yourself because if you will not, whom will? Love yourself by speaking to yourself with love. Honestly answer the following question: Would you speak to others openly as you would speak to yourself? Why are we in general violent to ourselves saying things like: “ I am worthless”, I am not good enough”, “I am not as good as….”? Stop the violence that you inflict upon yourself with that type of nonsensical chatter and replace it with loving words. Most importantly…… (Wait for the drumroll) …….. Yes you guessed it …………FIND YOUR WHY!!